Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Concerns About the Safety of Jade Eggs

It's come to my attention that it may not be advisable to insert Jade Eggs inside the vagina.  It's been my understanding that these eggs have been used by women for over a thousand years originating in China.  There seems to be a recent controversy between gynecologist Dr. Jen Gunter and Gwyneth Paltrow about Jade Eggs.  Dr. Gunter a OB/GYN states that Jade is porous and can harbor bacteria.  I've always heard Jade Eggs referenced as non-porous which contradicts Dr. Gunter although bleaching can cause jade to become porous.  This is outside of my expertise.  People should research and do their due diligence on the subject and consult their doctor.  I've never heard of women getting an infection from Jade Eggs following the recommended cleaning procedure.  Of course that doesn't mean it's not happening.

I don't leave it in at night.  I also don't wear it daily.  My experience has been nothing but positive in regards to more vaginal tone and moisture.  Here's a couple of links that will give some more info.

Yoni Egg FAQ

There are thousands of women using eggs and some gynecologists that recommend against using them because of infection risk.   The user should do their research and due diligence on yoni egg usage before purchase.  There is a potential infection risk because of the porous nature of the stone.  I won't recommend them until more is known.

DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Reader Question: How do I introduce this to my partner?

I've received a few questions from men that are really intrigued by this system, but are hesitant or afraid of what their wife might think or how they might react.  This is one of my most recent comments.

Wonderful blog you have here. Nicely put and everything seems logical. I want to share and practice this with my wife but I'm afraid how. I'm afraid how she's gonna react or what will she think.

I found this intro to Karezza video, and I wanted to share it.  First, if you don't know what your wife will think, there needs to be more open communication in your relationship.  Talking about what will turn you or her on, or how we can make our great relationship even better, hopefully should always be up for discussion.  And if you don't know how she would react, I certainly don't.

The below video is a really great intro to Karezza.  There is really only one flaw in that they recommend that both the male and female abstain from orgasm.  Alice Bunker Stockham is the originator of Karezza.  She originally recommended that only men refrain from orgasm, but she thought that was unfair to the men and so adapted it to also include women as well.  The Tao or Tantra would disagree.  And as I witness it in my own life, having intercourse with a male that's practicing retention has opened my sexuality even further allowing me to be multi-orgasmic.  I am not drained by having orgasms.  I am only enhanced.  My husband however is drained of energy by ejaculation.  With daily stimulation, my husband's one orgasm a week is more powerful than they otherwise would be.  So, Mrs. Stockham came up with a good thing and then got sidetracked by some twisted version of what she thought might be fair and just IMO.  You can practice however you think it works best for you as a couple.  I have not read Cupid's Poisened Arrow by Marnia Robinson, but I am familiar with her point of view from interviews etc.  I thought this video could be a nice little ice breaker to open up a discussion as a couple to other possibilities:

Cupid's Poisened Arrow Animated Book Review 

The Daily News also did a story on Karezza which could also serve as an ice breaker:

Skip the Orgasm - What's the Point? Couples Embrace Karezza, Sex Without Climax to Strengthen Relationships

ABC News has a story and video:

Karezza: Men Say Best Sex Comes Without Orgasm

Here's a very well grounded woman who helps and facilitates her partner's retention:

Sacred Sex Magic: Conserving Male Energy Using Karezza

Here's a interview with Marnia Robinson which could serve as nice ice breaker:

What Really Bonds is Less Orgasms & More Intercourse

Marnia applies abstaining from orgasm to women in this interview, and says you have to see where you fall on the bell curve as to how it effects you.  Many women don't orgasm during sex naturally.  Are they practicing Karezza?  No, they have a physiological or psychological barrier.  I simply have no ill effects from orgasm, and I have 9 nearly every day.  Many women struggle to have an orgasm.  They need to open their sexuality.  Men have much more profound ill effects from orgasm / ejaculation.  These videos can serve to open the discussion, and the couple can discuss the best method to facilitate the male's retention.  We have found that it works very well in the context of a FLR.

Anyway, here's some potential ice breakers.  See if you deem them appropriate for your spouse to view.


DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.

Monday, December 12, 2016

Terms of Entry

Our intercourse sessions are very passionate.  I think if most women could witness them, they might find it unbelievable.  But this is the way a man responds to a woman's vagina when he is stimulated with it daily without ejaculation.  The sobbing, crying and screaming are par for the course as I ride him in his pre-climax state letting him rest only when I'm riding his face for my orgasm.  I've become very skilled in the saddle, backing off to give him some space so he doesn't spill but not too far so he falls out of his pre-climax state.

I think every woman wants the power to fuck her husband's brains out, and ladies, once you've introduced your husband to his new life of retaining with an ejaculation schedule, that's exactly what will happen each and every time you have sex, not just on a birthday or anniversary.  My husband is delirious during intercourse and takes a while to get his head on straight afterward.  Note: Your husband should not drive after sex like this, and performing even simple tasks like pouring a glass of water can be a challenge as his brain is swimming in all those neuro transmitters.  Now that's erotic power.  Of late, my husband is begging to have another week or even month off from retaining as I ride him hard and relentless which can make it difficult for him to reach that 7th day for ejaculation while on the verge of release without spilling.

I've mentioned having a ceremony where he would vow only to ejaculate when given permission by me.  But he really seems to be dragging his feet on this issue, so I decided to go ahead and make it easy on him and set the Terms of Entry to my vagina.  He may be uncertain about that kind of commitment, but I'm not.  And I feel certain that at this point in my life that I will not be in a relationship with a man that is not retaining and on an ejaculation schedule.  I think any woman that has tried this would feel the same way.

As a woman, I have the right to decide on the terms and conditions that I will participate in a relationship with a man, and the man of course has the right to choose a different path with a different woman.  But if my husband wants to enter my vagina, these are the terms that he must abide by:

  • He must practice semen retention.
  • He must abide by the ejaculation schedule I  set.
  • He will submit to the agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.
I don't set these terms lightly, but the trial period is over.  There is no question our relationship is better in every respect under this system.  I'll relate the experience of coming to this obvious realization that I have rights too. This is a two way street.

During one of our sessions where he's half out of his mind and begging to take maybe a 30 day break from this which will certainly never happen, I thought what would Lady Elizabeth Bathory do?  The answer in my head was she would probably hang him upside down, cut his throat, drain his blood and bathe in it.  Okay, wrong person to ask.  Note to self, don't ever ask Liz for advice.  So, in the throws of excruciating pleasure as he's asking this, I slap him in the face and state firmly, "As long as your under this roof, this is your life.  You'll be retaining with a schedule.  Don't ask about it again.  Now, pump!"  I call that setting the Terms of Entry.  It's been over a year.  He should be used to this by now, and he is,  but during the throws of passion, he can drift to being a little goal oriented toward ejaculation, and it helps to (if I can borrow a term form my college behaviorism days) helicopter the dog.  And I do this by periodically setting the terms of entry to remind him of the terms and conditions of being in a relationship with me especially when he starts yearning to be a free ejaculator again.  In the throws of passion with the crying and begging, he needs something to refocus him occasionally on what his primary task is.  And that's to "pump" and hit that A-spot (see chap10).  Setting the Terms of Entry help remind him why I allow him in there in the first place, and it's not for him to ejaculate except for about once a week.  The rest of the time is about the pleasure of intercourse for both of us.

It's up to the women to be strong and have resolve about the ejaculation schedule in the height of passion.  If not, spills will be inevitable.  Is this cruel?  When you set the Terms of Entry, pay attention to his penis that's pulsing inside you.  Does it get even harder than it was before or seem like it gets softer?  I find the firmer and sterner I am setting the Terms of Entry on a regular basis the more he responds to it.  I only have to look at and feel his penis to know how he feels about things that he may be too ashamed to admit.

Helicoptering the dog is an analogy borrowed from dog training.  Sometimes, working with dominant aggressive breeds like the ones used for law enforcement, the trainer must establish dominance, as the dog, no matter what you do, thinks he's the boss.  It really should only be done to a highly aggressive breed that is actually trying to kill/attack the trainer.  To do this the trainer will take the dogs lead and swing the dog by the neck like a helicopter rotor blade.  Of course, I've never done this to a dog.  I don't even have a fraction of the strength required to do it or the heart.  But the trainer does it for the dogs own good and to save it from being classified as untrainable.  It can take the tenacity of even the most alpha human male to overcome a dog like this and establish dominance.  But once done, the dog knows without question who is dominant, and he can have a productive edifying life.  If you were to ask my husband, he would say his life is much more edifying and productive with a strong resolute female controlling his ejaculation schedule.

I think "Helicoptering the Dog" is a good analogy for setting the terms of entry to your vagina and a good metaphor for the kind of resolve it can take to keep a man from releasing in the throws of passion.  Remember, I said "metaphor."  It's just a stern verbal reminder (and maybe a slap with it) of who's in charge of the schedule, and it's not him.  He sometimes needs to be reminded of what his life now is, and the Terms of Entry need to be repeated periodically as he's completely out of his mind with passion.  Don't forget he's receiving the best sex he's ever had, and he'll be grateful for your resolve maybe a half hour after intercourse is over and his head is starting to clear, and when his ejaculation day does arrive, it will be the sweetest release he's ever had.

Thankfully, my husband chooses to abide by these terms as he knows his needs transcend what he may want.  As always, these things should be discussed in depth between the couple.  We have weekly companion inventories that are a set aside time where concerns can be brought up.  Open communication is paramount in a relationship. We all know what men want.  The trick is knowing what they need.  I feel it's my responsibility not to give him what he wants, but what he needs.  Giving him what he wants will only damage our relationship.  And ultimately, what he needs will give him more than he ever thought to want.


Thanks to my hubby for help with the website ....and for the orgasms.

DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.

Sunday, December 4, 2016

Examples of Aversive Stimuli

More than a few times people have asked me for suggestions in my comment sections on aversive stimuli that could be used for unauthorized ejaculation.  I decided to put this together so I have something that I can easily refer people to. If you select the right one and apply it correctly, your husband's behavior can improve greatly.

You will have to decide what works best with your husband during your companion inventories. With any aversive stimulus, if the behavior repeats, or isn't curtailed, then a different stimulus should be tried.   My husband fears non-contact punishment much more than contact.  My go to non-contact punishment is to delay ejaculation day, and that will  curtail his mouth immediately every time.  The phrase "You've just been (or will be) bumped a day." functions as a sharp reminder when he drifts over the line.  Really, this should be enough to influence and correct behavior for most males once you've both agreed that your the one controlling the ejaculation schedule.

There are so many effective aversive stimuli available which may be more appealing to women to apply than contact punishment.  For most of us, our nature is not to be harsh and abusive.  I encourage you to come up with your own ideas with your husband in your companion inventories.  The following are ideas that often work just as well if not better than contact punishment:

-Delay ejaculation day one or two days (this is the most common one I use).

- An early bedtime for a week.

-Revoking TV or computer time.

-Putting him on an allowance and restricting or increasing it according to his behavior.

-If he's a sports fan, deciding which games he will be able to watch if any.  Personally, I think sports watching should be eliminated, but that's for each individual wife to decide.  I really struggle not to strongly recommend the elimination of aggressive sports like football as from my observation of men watching football, it seems to bring out aggression in them.  A sports doctor at a medical conference relayed to me that domestic violence rates go up on Sundays the day of NFL games.  There have been many women who have been brutalized at the hands of their husbands when his team lost.  It brings out the worst in some men.

-Restricting time out with his friends. That should always be at the discretion of the wife. If he's going out with friends, he should always call and ask permission first.

-Corner time

Any one of these really cuts into his life in a way that is felt to the core and modifies behavior.

There are so many other options for the male that craves a controlling female authority, your goals can be easily accomplished without any physical contact.  The above are just some examples. Even better if you and your husband find your own path through your companion inventories.  And always be safe and consensual.

Token Economies

Token economies are a very powerful tool to shape behavior and used for children and adults.  They are especially powerful for the man that earns actual money outside the home as it's a currency that he can't earn outside of you.  You are the dispenser of this unique currency.  Red, white and blue poker chips are commonly used for this.  These chips are linked to behavior both good and bad.  Token economies are so powerful because the chips are reinforcers.  Chips are given for good behavior and subtracted for bad behavior.  What's great about this chips is that they're tied to positive reinforcers.  They are hard and tangible, and you can carry them easily in your pocket and dispense them immediately when you want to reward behaviors

Just as an example, you might say that he needs 7 red chips for an ejaculation, and give him one red chip for each day he doesn't ejaculate.  His chip bank should always be easily accessible to you so you easily subtract any color chip you wish in the event of bad behavior.  Maybe the blue chips could be used for a sexual activity that's his favorite, and if he earns 15-20 of them, you can make that happen for him.  Maybe the white chips could represent 5 minutes of free computer time he could use to view porn if that's his thing.  You can link the white chips to cleaning the toilets, floors etc.  These are just ideas to get you started.  Let your imagination run wild.

An Allowance

An allowance is a great idea for husbands that function in the role of a traditional housewife where he is solely dependent on the income from the wife.  Nothing influences behavior more than going from a $50-100 dollar a week allowance to $10.   You can also tie in the poker chip economy to this.

Contact Punishment

Surprisingly, at least to me, many males crave this from a woman.  And when she does it, it many times still isn't delivered as harshly or severely as he would like.  I almost wonder if European males thought they were following the golden rule of "Do unto others as you would have them do to you" when they enslaved African citizens and did unspeakable things to them, acting out they're own secret fantasies.  The problem with contact punishment for a male that opts for it is that in order for it to function as an averse stimulus, it must be severe enough to wipe out the arousal and function as an actual punishment.  That's why I don't recommend it.  If you live in a more metro area, and want to pursue that road, you should contact a professional in the BDSM community that can instruct you on how to do it safely.  You might want to choose a male instructor from the gay BDSM community over a female.  Men have had thousands of years of being brutal and merciless.  It's in their DNA.  Just tell them what your objective is and inform him your husband has a masturbation problem or a spilling problem that needs to be corrected.  I'm sure he will welcome the opportunity to help you get the message across to your husband.  Choosing a male instructor also has the benefit of not being an arousing female to your heterosexual male.  Just the thought of submitting to another male for punishment might be a powerful enough aversive that he will do everything possible to avoid it.   You could have this BDSM specialist instruct you or just schedule an appointment with him when your husband requires it and have him deliver it with or without you being present if your squeamish.  I assume a professional like this will have all the proper release from liability forms for your husband to sign plus all the restraints and other expensive equipment, so there are benefits.  If the specialist does this correctly, it may wind up only being a one time thing.  Many women are not into contact punishment or may be squeamish, and this is the best solution I can come up with to satisfy both parties.  The wife could be in the room and supervise her husband's punishment at the hands of a male BDSM professional.

I deliver contact punishment to my husband as a concession to him, and I have grown to enjoy it quite a bit, but I'm not an instructor on delivering it.  The issue of safety is an important one.  Every male will be different in what it takes to instruct him on the importance of separating ejaculation from intercourse.  My husband is insisting he has learned his lesson at 50-100 strokes, and begging me to stop.  Julie at Strict Julie Spanks in her article "Beating Your Man Safely" suggests a 300 stroke 30 minute session to get the message across.  That may be what my husband needs, but I'm a softy.  His spills are rare so I will stick to what I'm doing for now.  Following the ejaculation schedule is the only priority because all his other behaviors can be influenced with it.  Just suggesting Julie's 30 minute 300 stroke session definitely got his attention, and I'm sure it will be in the back of his mind to guide him during intercourse as I know my 50-100 stroke sessions are already a strong deterrent.  If you decide to practice contact punishment  after being properly instructed, your husband will grow to fear and respect you, and consequently great love and worship for you can result from this.  From my experience and observation, men despise weak women, and weak daughters of Eve while initially sought by males for easy vaginal access, eventually are neglected and abused by men.  I can't think of how many of my girlfriends suffer in relationships with men that take them for granted.

If you read my comments sections on various entries, much of this will have been repeated information, but now I've got it all in one place.  As I've said before, this is not about a female led relationship for us.  A female led relationship is the result of my husband practicing semen retention, and my assistance by helping and enforcing his ejaculation schedule which has increased the passion in our relationship beyond measure as well as health benefits for him.  It's through him that I've discovered my nature as a daughter of Lilith and ground Eve beneath my feet. 


Thanks to my hubby for help with the website ...and the orgasms!

DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.

Monday, November 21, 2016

Reader Question: Health Concerns About Semen Retention

I received this question from a reader recently:

Great blog full of practical information, thank you!

Given your medical/science background, do you have any health concerns regarding long-term retention? My wife's previous schedule was a monthly ejaculation. We are gradually working on increasing the length between ejaculations to once or twice a year which I am in complete agreement with.

Are you aware of any health risks with such a long term schedule? I'm currently at almost three months and feel great so far. Thank you for your consideration.

 I answered it in the comments section, but I thought it would be worth going into it with a little more detail.  There really isn't any consensus on this in the medical community, but there are some interesting studies to look at.  However, different studies reach different conclusions which may just add to the confusion more than clarification on the issue.

Masturbation Frequency Linked to Prostate Risk in 20s, Protection in 50s

Polyxeni Dimitropoulou, PhD; Rosalind Eeles, PhD, FRCP; and Kenneth R. Muir, PhD, obtained detailed sexual histories from 840 men. About half the men developed prostate cancer by age 60, and about half did not have cancer.

This was a 2009 study that states frequent masturbation for men is 2-7 times a week for men in their 20-30s and increased the risk of prostate cancer compared to same age men masturbating less than once a month.  These frequent masturbators had a 79% greater chance of prostate cancer by age 60.

For men in their 50s, frequent masturbation was defined as one or more times per week compared to same age men that reported never masturbating.  These 50 year old masturbators had a 70% less chance of prostate cancer.

One of the things that really stood out to me was the article stated:

"The findings were surprising. Sexual intercourse did not affect prostate cancer risk. But frequent masturbation did -- in different ways, at different times of life."

I thought this was fascinating just from a spiritual Taoist perspective.  The union between the Yoni and Lingam would be a totally different flow of energy than masturbation.  It's interesting to see this aspect reflected in the science.  I've noticed that extensive pre-climax stimulation to my husband's penis with my hands causes blue balls whereas extensive pre-climax stimulation with my vagina does not.  My husband doesn't want to experiment with increasing the validity of this observation by replicating it repeatedly.

Dimitropoulou, now at England's University of Cambridge
 "It is kind of logical that a moderate level of masturbatory activity has to be maintained," she says. "Not too much, and not none at all."

"In mature age, it may be more important that toxins get flushed out of the system," she says. "And because the masturbation frequency was not as high in the men's 50s as it was in their 20s, even low levels of masturbation in the 50s has a protective effect."

These are just theories, Dimitropoulou warns. More research is needed to determine the exact role of sex hormones and sexual activity in prostate-cancer risk at different stages of life.

In conflict with the above study, we have the  earlier 2003, 2004 studies below.

Harvard’s Health Professionals Follow-up Study

As part of Harvard’s Health Professionals Follow-up Study, 29,342 men between the ages of 46 and 81 reported their average number of ejaculations per month in young adulthood (ages 20–29), in mid-life (ages 40–49), and also in the most recent year.  Ejaculations included, nocturnal emissions, sexual intercourse and masturbation. Researchers found that men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 33% lower risk of prostate cancer compared with men who reported four to seven ejaculations a month throughout their lifetimes.

An Australian study of 2,338 men came to a similar conclusion. In all, men who averaged 4.6 to seven ejaculations a week were 36% less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer before the age of 70 than men who ejaculated less than 2.3 times a week on average. The study found no connection between prostate cancer and the number of sex partners. (An earlier study, however, found that men who had sex with 30 or more women were two to three times more likely to develop prostate cancer than men with only one partner.)

But researchers stress that until more is known about the role of ejaculation and prostate cancer, researchers say men shouldn't change their sexual behavior.  "This one study doesn't warrant any recommendations. Men shouldn't go out and start changing their habits," says Leitzmann.

There are many variables involved and too many internals of these studies for me to look at here.  I wouldn't read too much into these studies.  No one knows enough yet, and I'm not sure any of these studies relates at all to my husband as he is an individual that is living a radically different lifestyle than those men polled in these studies.  He is a highly stimulated male engaged in mind shattering sex almost daily without ejaculation except for about once a week.  Science isn't likely to find a large population of such males to conduct a thirty year study on.  He has gone from low volume, clear watery bitter ejaculate from frequent ejaculation to a high volume, creamy, thick, mostly neutral tasting white ejaculate with heavy stimulation and infrequent ejaculation.  The above studies also neglect to mention that testosterone increases after 7 days of retention which is a very significant benefit for men that are low in testosterone.  He also supplements with Zinc after ejaculation.  They also neglect to focus on what may be the true benefit.  Is it the sexual stimulation or the ejaculation?


If you look at the NoFap community on YouTube and their forum where men have pledged to not masturbate, you'll find many testimonials from men about how much their lives have improved from not indulging.

The men in these videos below seem balanced and centered. YouTube videos you might want to view:

Semen Retention & NoFap - Powerful Benefits 

Sex & NoFap - 4 months without cumming

After 3 years of not masturbating - 11 tips

This is really something the reader will have to search out and find what the right answer is for them.  The medical research available all has to be taken with a grain of salt too.  It recently came to light that at least 50% of the research published is invalid because the studies aren't reproducible with the same results.  Shocking!  And statistics can really give us inaccurate perspectives depending on how they are used and worded.  At a recent medical conference I attended, a presenter stated smoking doubles your risk of lung cancer but then broke it down and explained what this means.  What isn't commonly known is that 5% of non smokers develop lung cancer, and 10% of smokers develop lung cancer.  Yes, that's double the risk, but I still bet your surprised that only 10% of smokers get lung cancer.  You really need to take apart every study and look at the raw numbers.  And, yes, you should absolutely stop smoking!  :-)


DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.

Sunday, November 13, 2016

A Woman Should Know Her Place

I've been thinking of my evolution as a woman, and I kept coming back to the two female archetypes of Lilith and Eve.  I've come to the conclusion that there are basically two types of females as far as how they exist in relationship to men, and they are embodied in these two mythological figures of Lilith and Eve.  I was raised, in-cultured, and instructed as a daughter of Eve, but I'm now an awakened daughter of Lilith.  Let me explain.  I think it's helpful to have the language and identify terms before women and men can make a change moving into the new millennium.  Are you Eve, or are you Lilith?    

 Lilith & Eve

I think a discussion of these two characters is worth entertaining.  Some may believe they actually existed, but it may be even more interesting to think that men felt they had to make them up for the purposes of religious mythology.  They needed to demonize the powerful woman to instruct girls as to their proper role as they knew Lilith was inside their daughters, and men felt they needed to extinguish the force of Lilith inside their daughters with this myth, and brain wash them into accepting their sole role as only agents of fertility ...or maybe these two women really existed.  Far be it from me to disabuse anyone of what they believe to be history.  I confess that there is something inside me as well that wants to believe the latter as it explains so much about the nature of women and men. 

Some say Lilith was created first before Adam, and at the least, they were created at the same time from the very same stuff.  Lilith was Adam's first wife in the garden of Eden.  She refused to submit to her husband as he demanded and would not assume the missionary position lying on her back with her legs spread and insisted on riding on top for her own sexual gratification.  She reasoned she would only accept an equal relationship as they were both made from the very same star stuff.  Lilith was just trying to maintain her equality, and Adam tried to overstep his authority insisting that she submit.  She refused, spoke the name of god, used her frequent flier miles and flew away.  It's interesting that no where in the mythology did anyone from the establishment descend and issue the "Thou shalt chill, Bitch" command to Lilith ordering her to listen to Adam.  Adam takes it upon himself to overstep his authority.  In her seclusion, she bore many children in a cave.  Angels were sent to convince her to return and threatened to kill her children if she didn't.  Everybody upstairs really wanted her to return to that asshole, but she refused to return to Adam because he was basically being a total dick demanding that she submit.  Obviously, Adam was a frequent ejaculator jerking off in the garden all day and hadn't discovered his true nature through semen retention.  Because of his extreme dickishness, Adam was alone in the garden.  And the establishment went back to the drawing board to come up with a woman that could coexist with a dick of this magnitude.

Lilith was replaced with the spineless Eve that was designed from the initial concept phase from the
beginning to submit to her husband's word and be a helpmate to her husband.  To make this kind of spineless woman that Adam could subject to his will, they had to make her from different stuff than Lilith and Adam were made of.  Eve was a watered down, dialed down version of a woman designed to submit and created last as an afterthought, the weakest link to stand in for the real woman to take her place next to Adam after everything else on earth was created.  She was taken from Adam's rib to give him power over her.

We see these women everyday: women that submit to their husbands, women that tear down other women that actually are making a difference in the world, the 42% of the women that voted for Trump, women that sexually mutilate little girls in some sects, women that enjoy the rights that the daughters of Lilith fought for without a second thought about the sacrifice it took to obtain them etc.  The daughters of Eve are all around us enabling Adam and his overwhelming drive to make the world submit to him from his oppression of race and gender to enslaving and raping the planet for his own gain.  The daughters of Eve fulfilling their purpose and design have been propping these men up for millennia. 

Even though Adam got what he wanted, I can't help but think he didn't have respect for this Stepford wife and always regretted losing Lilith who was the true equal to him that Eve never was.  It's interesting to note that Lilith was not banned from partaking from the tree of knowledge but Eve was.  After all, the establishment didn't need to deal with another woman that had any brains.

Strolling through the garden, Eve saw this confident, groovy chick with swagger hanging out under the Tree of Knowledge and was obviously drawn to her.  Who wouldn't be seduced in the presence of a 100% designed woman as she was supposed to be. Yes, Lilith was transformed into the serpent by male writers to symbolize brilliance and cunning over the millennia greatly simplifying the Sunday school teacher's job.   Lilith being into organic produce held out a piece of fruit and told Eve "It's cool, it's loaded with polyphenols."  And Eve wanting to hang with the cool kids and susceptible to all health food claims,  partook in the first documented case of peer pressure, and Adam was back in hell but not as bad because Eve was only a little bitchy being taken from only his rib.  But the seed of Lilith was on its way because Eve's daughters have been making Blendtec smoothies with this fruit ever since, upsetting the apple cart throughout time.    

As I look at the world around me, I see women that are descendants of the the spineless Eve, and
women that descend from the fearless Lilith who defined her own role.  Of course the losers in history are always demonized by the winners, and in Lilith's case she was demonized literally along with her demon off spring by male writers talking smack about her and male artists depicting their fears of a dominant woman in Lilith for thousands of years.  I'm proud to be a daughter of Lilith, and to live in an age where the daughters of Lilith thrive.  As daughters of Eve we can reclaim the seed of Lilith within us, nurture it defeating the program of Eve within us and use the wisdom from the Tree of Knowledge to help Adam realize his true nature.  As a daughter of Lilith I have excelled in my career over many of my male peers and subdued my Alpha male husband taking control of my marriage, and consequently he has grown to love and respect me even more than before.  As women we need to observe that men despise weakness and respect strength.  It's when we're hard and firm that their penis becomes hard and firm testifying to the true nature of man.

The universe has installed a program in the son's of Adam that can be activated through semen retention so that they can coexist with the daughters of Lilith in harmony.  I believe men seek and crave to be in the presence of Lilith as they have evolved.   As men kneel before Lilith, she will reveal to them their true nature.

Cultural Oppression

Men have lived in fear of the power of women over the millennia.  Religions have taken action to restrict their power.  Whatever the rational that religion has stated is the reason for this means absolutely nothing because the end result is the true meaning of the action.  The end result is that they're silenced.  Their sexuality is removed by cutting off their clitoris and their vaginas sewn up by the daughters of Eve in some sects.  What a nice stress reliever to take the pressure off of men to perform sexually by surgically altering women so they are physically incapable of receiving satisfaction.  How terrified men must be of female power. A woman is considered so powerful that she must be veiled by the hijab to limit and cut off her influence from corrupting the society.  Her voice is shut down even before it's heard.  If a husband even fears possible highhandedness from his wife, he is encouraged to beat her.  Those poor men live in terror of women in the middle east.  Is there anything we can do to help them I wonder?  Islam’s prophet says: “There is no salvation for a man or a nation who allows women to rule over them.”   If it weren't so heinous, it would be laughable.  Women are so powerful in Islam, it's permitted for the male to cut her nose off, throw acid in her face, beat her fiercely to try to neutralize her influence.   In Pakistan, domestic violence occurs in forms of beatings, sexual violence, torture, mutilation, and burning the victim alive called bride burning (for her family's refusal to pay additional dowry to the husband or his family).  Over 90% of Pakistani women consider domestic violence as a norm of every woman's married life.

I once had a female friend that visited a region in the middle east years ago.  She walked down the street as a normal woman would in the west.  She was wearing the required headscarf, but men were so aroused by her bare feet visible through her sandals that some were masturbating in public looking at her as she walked by.  This is a powerful example of the erotic power that women hold over men.  What pathetic creatures that can be so strongly influenced by the sight of a woman's feet that they would debase themselves in public.  I don't see eastern males as different than western males.  What observing males in the east shows us is a raw unfiltered picture of what males are without civilizing influences.  It shows what they are capable of if they go unchecked.  Is there any doubt that men must be subdued, broken and trained by their wives to be better mannered?  We love our men, and we need to do what's best for them.  If a man doesn't respect you, he can not love you, and if he has free access to your vagina and ejaculation, he will not respect you.

The Witch Hunts

How else can you eliminate any woman that might display any symptoms of the seed of Lilith that may lurk inside her and eradicate this evil seed?  Don't you know that women are much more susceptible to temptation by the devil?  The witch hunts came about in the 1300s.  Men, and children were persecuted as witches as well, but 95% of the hunts were focused on women, depending on the region.  They would convict a few to maybe hundreds of women at a time, and obviously any women that might display an independent spirit would be deemed by the  judges, ministers, priests, constables, jailers, judges, doctors, prickers, torturers, jurors, executioners who were nearly 100 percent male as consorting with the devil and sentenced to death by hanging, burning, drowning, breaking on the wheel.  Other punishments inflicted on convicted witches included mutilating, branding, whipping, dunking, locking in the the stocks, jailing, fining, banishing, or selling into slavery. Tens of thousands of women died in this manner over 400 years ending in the 1700s.  There are multiple theories about why the hunts happened like: illness, disaster, geography,  conspiracy, greed, social control, religious rebellion, social function, religious function and mysogyny.  But lets not look at any rationalization to explain behavior.  Always look at the end result. The behavior: Killing women in mass.  The result:  tens of thousands of dead women and more importantly to the establishment, millions more controlled by the chilling effect this mass extermination had.  The hunts embodied primarily hostility against women, specifically women that were empowering themselves outside the male system, and citizens were looking to them for guidance and healing.  Yes, it was a challenge to male authority and the male established orthodox religion.  And of course, men asked themselves, what would Jesus do?  That's right.  Murder all the dissident women or at least give it a good try.  Killing people in mass is always such a logistical nightmare for men.  Eventually their arms get tired from tying all those knots and building all those platforms and it fizzled in western culture around the 1700s.

Witch hunts are still great sport today in some areas:

In India, labeling a woman as a witch is a common ploy to grab land, settle scores or even to punish her for turning down sexual advances.  A 2010 estimate places the number of women killed as witches in India at between 150 and 200 per year, or a total of 2,500 in the period of 1995 to 2009

In Papua New Guinea in June 2013, four women were accused of witchcraft because the family "had a 'permanent house' made of wood, and the family had tertiary educations and high social standing."  All of the women were tortured and Helen Rumbali was beheaded.

In Saudi Arabia 118 people were arrested in 2009, 74% of them female.  Human Rights Watch stated "Saudi courts are sanctioning a literal witch hunt by the religious police."

After the hunts ended in the 1700s in Europe, women were forced to depend on men by limiting property rights and restricting the right to vote which of course eliminates the possibility of any politician giving a flying ..... about what happens to you or how you're treated.

An Awakening

In 1848, Elizabeth Cady Stanton Stated in her "Declaration of Sentiments" “The history of mankind is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations on the part of man toward woman, having in direct object the establishment of an absolute tyranny over her. To prove this, let facts be submitted to a candid world.”

  • Married women were legally dead in the eyes of the law
  • Women were not allowed to vote
  • Women had to submit to laws when they had no voice in their formation
  • Married women had no property rights
  • Husbands had legal power over and responsibility for their wives to the extent that they could imprison or beat them with impunity
  • Divorce and child custody laws favored men, giving no rights to women
  • Women had to pay property taxes although they had no representation in the levying of these taxes
  • Most occupations were closed to women and when women did work they were paid only a fraction of what men earned
  • Women were not allowed to enter professions such as medicine or law
  • Women had no means to gain an education since no college or university would accept women students
  • With only a few exceptions, women were not allowed to participate in the affairs of the church
  • Women were robbed of their self-confidence and self-respect, and were made totally dependent on men
I couldn't agree more with Stanton when she said at an 1868 Women's Suffrage Convention in Washington, D.C "The male element is a destructive force, stern, selfish, aggrandizing, loving war, violence, conquest, acquisition, breeding in the material and moral world alike, discord, disorder, disease, and death. See what a record of blood and cruelty the pages of history reveal! Through what slavery, slaughter, and sacrifice, through what inquisitions and imprisonments, pains and persecutions, black codes and gloomy creeds, the soul of humanity has struggled for the centuries, while mercy has veiled her face and all hearts have been dead alike to love and hope!"

Dangerous Women

Dangerous Woman: Kitty Marion
The daughters of Lilith had to resort to acts of terrorism to make their voices heard.  It took great effort to even be seen as human beings instead of as solely agents of fertility.  Dangerous militant women like Kitty Marion resorted to bombings and arson outside banks, churches and a theater. Acts of vandalism also prevailed breaking glass, destroying art etc.  I'm not sure why, but men don't seem to listen until you start breaking their toys and destroying their property.  I guess it's a certain emotional IQ that prevails in them. Eventually, men said "why didn't you just ask?" and women secured the right to vote.  And things started changing because politicians saw a need to pander to 50% of the voting public.

Restricting women from education can't be overemphasized.  Limiting language and ideas severely limits the power of the individual.  Limiting knowledge, physical intimidation, the threat of being committed to an asylum and labeled as a non person in the eyes of the law are a fairly good tool set for controlling a person absolutely.  Really, how terrified men must have been to devise a system this vile to oppress half of the population.

In America it was difficult for a woman to make her way in the early mid 20th century without tying herself to the coat tails of a man in her late teens to very early twenties.  Now,  men are viewed as optional to women and many wait until they're close to thirty before considering marriage as they consider their biological clock in regards to having children.

Men are dangerous, and we as women should acknowledge this.  They have a program within them that can be activated by semen retention and regular intense sexual stimulation that will humble them in the presence of women.  Women need to realize we hold the ultimate power and should set the terms for entry into the ultimate prize men seek.  Now that I regulate entry into my vagina and his ejaculation schedule, my husband's manners are greatly improved.  We live in an age where men can no longer take what they want without severe legal consequences.  The next step in feminism is for women to transmute the energy of their men into something productive through semen retention, the ejaculation schedule, and agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  We can truly assist them in reaching heights they could never have imagined possible and aid in their spiritual evolution.  The only thing that can subvert this movement are the daughters of Eve that are completely ignorant of the nature of their men letting their men take what they want whenever they want.  Men have used everything at their disposal to compel, force, coerce women to submit over the millennia.  We are now at a new fork in the road that could change the world significantly.

A Woman's Place in the New Millennium

Just following the mythology,  we were designed to be submissive per the request of Adam to the establishment, but we do have the seed of Lilith within us since we were made from Adam as Adam and Lilith came from the same star stuff.  We as women can overcome this programming of weakness, nurture that seed until Eve is exterminated and the nature of women's design that Adam requested is defeated.  As I regulate my husband's ejaculations and apply consequences, Lilith grows and Eve recedes further into the background, and I'm able to give Adam what he needed in the first place.  This really would have been better for the world if this was implemented properly in the beginning.  It would have prevented untold death and suffering through the millennia.   

I can easily see that when women realize that they set the terms of entry into a vagina which is the sole motivating factor of male behavior, that culture will change.  The daughters of Eve will always grant easy frequent access with constant ejaculation setting themselves up for abuse, neglect, being taken for granted and driving their husbands into the arms of novel females because they've made themselves a complete non stimulus.  They are soft and weak and men secretly despise them.

The daughters of Lilith will use their erotic influence to set strict terms for men to enter their vaginas.  They will insist to the men who enter them that they practice semen retention and request that they hand over control over their ejaculations and set severe consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  Men that belong to the daughters of Lilith will crave their women passionately as these women are worthy of their worship.  They will be bonded closely to their women as their sexual energy hasn't been dissipated through frequent ejaculation.  They will have model behavior as they strive to stay on track so they can ejaculate on the special day their wife has set for them.

We've entered an age where strength has become irrelevant.  The Ox may be the most powerful animal on the farm, but the farmer runs the farm.  As women are out earning men in many careers, the dynamics of households are upended in many aspects.  As always, money is power, and he/she who wields it, sets the rules.  But even so, men who have been frequent ejaculators for years realize they need and crave Lilith, and they happily handover their paycheck to their housewives.

I urge women to make this realization and set terms for entry into their vaginas.  Once women realize this one fact, things will change.  Culture is already changing, but it will move faster as women embrace this fact.


Thanks to my hubby for helping with the layout ...and the orgasms.

Sunday, October 23, 2016

The Importance of Daily Stimulation ...and an Awakening

We had a week recently where we were very much involved in other things other than our sex life.  My husband was preoccupied with things of a technical nature.  He was retaining semen, but we let the sex slide for the week so there was little stimulation.  Even though he was retaining, I still encountered attitude problems consisting of disrespect or treating me like his employee which is unacceptable.   Sometimes semen retention is enough to highly motivate his behavior, but nothing really beats semen retention combined with daily stimulation.  Again this is my husband, and your experience with your husband may vary, but I assume hormones and psychology are somewhat consistent.  We may both own Toyota Camrys, but mine may have quirks that yours doesn't.

Had I provided daily stimulation, I'm sure he wouldn't have drifted so far into an assertive and aggressive state requiring correction, but he also bears responsibility for the coming punishment as he should have foresight and keep the consequences in mind. This is where consequences are important.  As I've said many times, this does not require contact punishment to be effective.  I always advocate a weekly companion inventory where you sit down as a couple and inventory your wants and needs where both sides can openly express their feelings.  I find it useful to conduct these companion inventories while I sit in a chair, and he sits and washes my feet, and we can relax and explore the previous week together.  Through these discussions, I've come to know my husband very well, and I know his needs.  I understand he needs contact punishment, and I'm more than happy to provide that service to shape his behavior.

In the beginning I very much was neutral about the activity, and it is rare so it's no big deal, but I've discovered something new about delivering a strapping this time.  I discovered that I really am awakening to the enjoyment of delivering a strapping to my husband, particularly after a week where his behavior got so out of line.  Truly enjoying it.

This was Sunday, and he was scheduled for ejaculation.  I told him that ejaculation will be postponed maybe until Tuesday.  This really got his attention.  This is one thing us wives need to realize.   When we control the ejaculation schedule, we wield great influence over our husbands.  I explained why his special day would be delayed, and that before sex happens today, there will be a punishment delivered.  He insisted that it wasn't necessary, and he would be good in the future, but that doesn't take care of the inappropriate behavior that had occurred.  I explained that whenever he feels like he wants sex today, he needs to let me know, and we'll take care of it.  This is what's good about this method.  He will always submit to discipline, because he will always be driven eventually to a strong desire to enter me.  As women we need to realize we set the terms of entry to our vaginas and not to give that up lightly.  Eventually, he came to me and said he'd like to have sex.  I said that's fine, but there's business to take care of first.

I told him to strip and get on his knees.  I think it's important for him to be naked so his penis is displayed just to assess his arousal.  I notice when he's on his knees, his penis is standing straight up.  This will not be a successful punishment if that penis is still standing when I'm done.  Again, it's not punishment if it arouses him.  I restrain his hands as he can't seem to keep them away from his rear while I deliver his strapping.  I use leather cuffs with metal carabiners that clip into the headboard and put pillows under his pelvis to get his rear in the air.  This not only makes the target easier to strike, but it also displays the penis so I can assess the progress of his arousal, as well as his testicles that adds some extra fear as he needs to hold very still during his strapping so that the three tailed strap doesn't catch a ball or two because of moving.  It may be arousing at the start but quickly escalates with sincere tears and cries for me to "Please Stop!!!".  But of course it's only just the beginning.  It's important for him to have genuine remorse, and a desire to change. As far as I'm concerned the strapping hasn't started until his penis is completely soft after stripping the arousal out of the experience with 10 or 15 strokes with the leather strap, and then the punishment can begin.  After examining his soft penis, I can see he's definitely not having fun anymore, and then we'll start counting the strokes.  This is why this is rare, but I am really starting to appreciate this activity.  As we count, we'll stop periodically so his rear can rest, and he can explain to me why this is happening which is of course because he doesn't think before he opens his mouth, and he can also explain to me what his future strategy will be to make sure it doesn't happen again.  Then we resume.  My goal was 50, but he really could only make it to 41.  I could see that he just wasn't going to make it through that last nine.  My fault for not pacing the intensity right, and I might have been enjoying it too much.  Plus the 20 inch wooden drilled paddle is brutal.  In any case, I could see he was filled with remorse, and sincerely wanted to change.

I've gained deeper insight into this activity since we started a year ago.  Men are taught early on that boys don't cry.  Men conceal their feelings and aren't prone to displays of vulnerability.  I can see how this would bring a couple closer together as the wife has the power to bring the husband to a state of tears.  As he discovers his place, it brings us closer together.  It's a very intimate experience between husband and wife.  It also appears to be a very bonding experience that a man won't experience in any other way.  His heart is genuinely turned toward the wife seeking forgiveness.

When it's over, he resumes his place on his knees, and I notice his penis is completely flaccid. Success.  I have him explain why I had to do that and what his place in this relationship is, which is of course to be my loving supportive husband and to talk to me in a way that reflects that.  While on his knees his steel rod begins to appear anticipating sex.  We have sex, and I maintain him mostly in his pre-climax state throughout.  It ends without ejaculation, if not a lot of crying, whimpering and screaming as he tries to avoid emission.  It would be a shame to have to repeat that punishment all over again.  I tell him maybe later ejaculation might happen, but that I'm proud of him that he took his discipline so well and that went a long way to securing ejaculation later in the day ...possibly.

I don't know for sure, but I'm thinking of following my new found joy in this activity.  I've told my husband this might be an important weekly activity as I explore my nature as a woman, and also as a powerful reminder to him as to his place in the relationship as a supportive loving husband although the severity may certainly be less depending on his behavior through the week.

I'm poised at another fork in the road where semen retention has lead us.  My husband's natural state practicing semen retention craves a dominant merciless female authority, and I find that I genuinely enjoy breaking him more than I have in the past which is something new for me.  I'm actually considering a weekly beating for my husband just for my pleasure as well as to keep our roles aligned so he doesn't drift to that assertive aggressive male state that we just experienced.  My husband's state of mind is that he's here to serve me.   He craves to demonstrate before me his willingness to endure anything even if it's just to serve a whim of my own amusement.

Again, let me reiterate that I urge each couple to discuss how they desire their relationship to be.  I don't presume that what works for us is something that would be desired by every couple, although I expect that there are far more women like me that would enjoy discovering this other side of themselves if they explored it and men as well that would truly appreciate it if not crave it.  I am simply sharing our experience and the pleasures we've received from our activities.  I don't suggest we are an example to follow. I don't recommend contact punishment.  I recommend non-contact punishment.  I've made a concession to my husband as to what I use as an aversive stimulus.  Couples will need to discuss what they use as an aversive stimulus amongst themselves.

The only principles we live by are that he practices semen retention, I control his ejaculation schedule, and our agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  We did not set out to practice any BDSM.  We have just followed where my husband practicing semen retention has led us.  My husband is a typical archetypal Adam (dominating requiring his wife to submit) when freely ejaculating.  Semen retention has activated what I can only describe as a dormant program in the background of his consciousness that allows a dominate male (son of Adam) to coexist peacefully with a daughter of Lilith.  I'll go more into the dynamics of Adam, Lilith & Eve in the next chapter.


Thanks to my hubby for help with the website .... and the orgasms.

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