Our intercourse sessions are very passionate. I think if most women could witness them, they might find it unbelievable. But this is the way a man responds to a woman's vagina when he is stimulated with it daily without ejaculation. The sobbing, crying and screaming are par for the course as I ride him in his pre-climax state letting him rest only when I'm riding his face for my orgasm. I've become very skilled in the saddle, backing off to give him some space so he doesn't spill but not too far so he falls out of his pre-climax state.
I think every woman wants the power to fuck her husband's brains out, and ladies, once you've introduced your husband to his new life of retaining with an ejaculation schedule, that's exactly what will happen each and every time you have sex, not just on a birthday or anniversary. My husband is delirious during intercourse and takes a while to get his head on straight afterward. Note: Your husband should not drive after sex like this, and performing even simple tasks like pouring a glass of water can be a challenge as his brain is swimming in all those neuro transmitters. Now that's erotic power. Of late, my husband is begging to have another week or even month off from retaining as I ride him hard and relentless which can make it difficult for him to reach that 7th day for ejaculation while on the verge of release without spilling.
I've mentioned having a ceremony where he would vow only to ejaculate when given permission by me. But he really seems to be dragging his feet on this issue, so I decided to go ahead and make it easy on him and set the Terms of Entry to my vagina. He may be uncertain about that kind of commitment, but I'm not. And I feel certain that at this point in my life that I will not be in a relationship with a man that is not retaining and on an ejaculation schedule. I think any woman that has tried this would feel the same way.
As a woman, I have the right to decide on the terms and conditions that I will participate in a relationship with a man, and the man of course has the right to choose a different path with a different woman. But if my husband wants to enter my vagina, these are the terms that he must abide by:
- He must practice semen retention.
- He must abide by the ejaculation schedule I set.
- He will submit to the agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.
During one of our sessions where he's half out of his mind and begging to take maybe a 30 day break from this which will certainly never happen, I thought what would Lady Elizabeth Bathory do? The answer in my head was she would probably hang him upside down, cut his throat, drain his blood and bathe in it. Okay, wrong person to ask. Note to self, don't ever ask Liz for advice. So, in the throws of excruciating pleasure as he's asking this, I slap him in the face and state firmly, "As long as your under this roof, this is your life. You'll be retaining with a schedule. Don't ask about it again. Now, pump!" I call that setting the Terms of Entry. It's been over a year. He should be used to this by now, and he is, but during the throws of passion, he can drift to being a little goal oriented toward ejaculation, and it helps to (if I can borrow a term form my college behaviorism days) helicopter the dog. And I do this by periodically setting the terms of entry to remind him of the terms and conditions of being in a relationship with me especially when he starts yearning to be a free ejaculator again. In the throws of passion with the crying and begging, he needs something to refocus him occasionally on what his primary task is. And that's to "pump" and hit that A-spot (see chap10). Setting the Terms of Entry help remind him why I allow him in there in the first place, and it's not for him to ejaculate except for about once a week. The rest of the time is about the pleasure of intercourse for both of us.
It's up to the women to be strong and have resolve about the ejaculation schedule in the height of passion. If not, spills will be inevitable. Is this cruel? When I set the Terms of Entry, I pay attention to his penis that's pulsing inside me. Does it get even harder than it was before or seem like it gets softer? I find the firmer and sterner I am setting the Terms of Entry on a regular basis the more he responds to it. I only have to look at and feel his penis to know how he feels about things that he may be too ashamed to admit. This is unquestionably what my husband wants from me, and it feeds a basic need for him.
Helicoptering the dog is an analogy borrowed from dog training. Sometimes, working with dominant aggressive breeds like the ones used for law enforcement, the trainer must establish dominance, as the dog, no matter what you do, thinks he's the boss. It really should only be done to a highly aggressive breed that is actually trying to kill/attack the trainer. To do this the trainer will take the dogs lead and swing the dog by the neck like a helicopter rotor blade. Of course, I've never done this to a dog. I don't even have a fraction of the strength required to do it or the heart. But the trainer does it for the dogs own good and to save it from being classified as untrainable. It can take the tenacity of even the most alpha human male to overcome a dog like this and establish dominance. But once done, the dog knows without question who is dominant, and he can have a productive edifying life. If you train animals, please don't take that as a recommendation, it's not. Consult a professional trainer. If you were to ask my husband, he would say his life is much more edifying and productive with a strong resolute female controlling his ejaculation schedule.
I think "Helicoptering the Dog" is a good analogy for setting the terms of entry to your vagina and a good metaphor for the kind of resolve it can take to keep a man from releasing in the throws of passion. Remember, I said "metaphor." It's just a stern verbal reminder (and maybe a slap with it) of who's in charge of the schedule, and it's not him. He sometimes needs to be reminded of what his life now is, and the Terms of Entry need to be repeated periodically as he's completely out of his mind with passion. Don't forget he's receiving the best sex he's ever had, and he'll be grateful for your resolve maybe a half hour after intercourse is over and his head is starting to clear, and when his ejaculation day does arrive, it will be the sweetest release he's ever had. If not, I would just discontinue this whole retention thing, and go back to the old way.
Thankfully, my husband chooses to abide by these terms as he knows his needs transcend what he may want. As always, these things should be discussed in depth between the couple. We have weekly companion inventories that are a set aside time where concerns can be brought up. Open communication is paramount in a relationship. We all know what men want. The trick is knowing what they need. I feel it's my responsibility not to give him what he wants, but what he needs. Giving him what he wants will only damage our relationship. And ultimately, what he needs will give him more than he ever thought to want.
Everything my husband and I do is arrived at through open communication and understanding of each other's needs. Everything we do is mutually agreed upon and done to increase the love and passion in our relationship as we move forward as a team.
Thanks to my hubby for help with the website ....and for the orgasms.
DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband. Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual. Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.